The health care team can help you with this conversation and also with an approach for complex situations, such as when the person dying has dementia. Download PDF kB. View all publications or call 13 11 20 for free printed copies. Caring for someone with cancer Speak to a health professional or to someone who has been there, or find a support group or forum. Cancer Council Online Community A community forum — a safe place to share stories, get tips and connect with people who understand.
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How you might feel You will probably have many strong emotions. Susan Telling others There is no easy way to start this conversation, but you may find it helps to practise what you are going to say. When you feel ready, decide who to tell and what you want to say. Think of answers to possible questions, but only respond if you feel comfortable. Choose a quiet time and place. Accept that people may react in different ways.
They may be uncomfortable and perhaps not know what to say. If they get upset, you may find yourself comforting them, even though you are the one dying. Another common reaction is denial — they may be convinced that a cure will be found or that the doctors are wrong. It doesn't mean that you won't be able to function for the rest of your life.
Grief also doesn't necessarily begin when a person dies. It might start as a person's illness progresses or normal roles change. If you're concerned that you're unable to stop grieving and it's affecting your ability to function, seek professional help. After your loved one dies, you might question whether you did enough or said the right things.
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Advanced illness: Holding on and letting go. Sharing with loved ones and your health care team gives them a chance to help you find ways to cope with and ease some of your fears. It gives them a chance to talk with you about the ideas you may have, too.
It can also give you a chance to look at and deal with some of your fears in new ways. Anger is sometimes hard to identify. Very few people actually feel ready to die.
Unfortunately, anger often gets directed at those closest to us, the ones we love the most. But it might help to try to direct anger at the disease and not your loved ones. You can use it as fuel to solve problems, to become assertive, or to get your needs met. Try to re-channel your anger to do meaningful, positive things. In the last stage of life, a person might regret or feel guilty about things they have done or not done, or maybe about things they have said. We feel regret when we think that we should have done something differently.
Maybe you'll consider apologizing for the things you regret. Maybe you can ask for forgiveness or forgive others and yourself. This is a good time to talk with your children about the important things you want them to know. Strengthen your relationships with loved ones. You may want to write letters to the people you love, record messages for them, or make videos they can watch — give them things they can keep to remember their time with you. You might feel well and not have many symptoms, so you're having trouble grasping that much loss is going to happen.
Or, you may have lost things already, such as the strength to get around like you used to, or the interest in doing the things you enjoy, or maybe the ability to get together with friends. You may feel distanced from those who are not coping well with the fact that you are in your last stage of life. This is another loss that can cause sadness and grief.
Many physical and emotional losses come before the loss of life itself.
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